Top 10 Wedding Guest Complaints

top-10

Your wedding day is about sharing your love and commitment for your fiancé with those closest to you. You want it to be a memorable day filled with love and joy from all who attend. Well, if you ask anyone who has been married they will tell you that you can’t control everything and especially not how the day goes. You can’t control rain, sickness or a broken dress straps but you can be proactive in making sure it’s the best experience for not only you and your future husband/wife but also those who have come to share their love with you on your special day. Here are 10 common complaints from wedding guests and how you can help head off some of these potential sticklers.

1. Don’t pick an inconvenient date

I get it, getting married on Valentine’s Day sounds ridiculously romantic. Becoming husband and wife at the stroke of midnight on New Years Eve would be a memorable event. It’s an incredibly romantic gesture for you and your fiancé but it’s not as fantastic for your guests.  It’s important when considering your wedding day to remember commitments that other may already have.  Here are some dates that are best to avoid.  If you are still really set on a specific day here are a few tips to help ease the stress of loved ones.

– Take to your wedding party and close relatives before finalizing your date

–  Let your guests know well in advance, send out your save-the-dates as soon as possible

– Check your local calendar to avoid conflicts in the area such as a local parade, outdoor music concert, or large event in the area

2. Be clear about invitations

One of the most stressful tasks you will do while planning your wedding will be deciding on the guest list. Even more frustrating when someone assumes they get a plus one or worse a plus 5. Here are some tips in dealing with this tricky topic.

– Address your invitations clearly.

– Write the names on the RSVP card. Avoiding any potential confusion by writing in the names on the response card allowing them to check off their response.

– Be up front. Wedding websites are a great way to inform your guests of hotel locations, important locations and special instructions. One of the most common RSVP blunders is a guest assuming their children have been invited. If you have decided to not include children at your reception your wedding website would be a great place to bring this to your guests attention.

– Address the issue head on. If there was a miscommunication its best to address it immediately.

** As a general note it is customary to give an unmarried guest with a long time significant other a +1. **

3. Seating

You always want to make sure your guests are comfortable. When your guests are enjoying themselves they are more likely to stick around to enjoy the night. Most important things to remember are:

– Make sure your guests have enough room. There is nothing more frustrating then having to move your chair every couple minutes so guests can get by. Or to be knocking elbows with the person next to you.

– Keep arrangements out of eye level. Keeping your table arrangements either low or high allows for your guests to freely communicate without leaning to the side to see one another.

– Assignments. Guests prefer not having to worry about seating. So, if it’s an option plan to assign the seating. Also, when assigning the seats consider which guests would enjoy sitting near one another.

4. Avoid Cash Bars

Just watch wedding planner David Tutera’s reaction when we asked him about them and see for yourself.

– If you can’t afford to have a fun bar invest in supplying a few specialty drinks, cover wine and beer, or be creative and have a free coffee bar.

5. Check the Weather

If you live in a location with unpredictable weather or have chosen a season that tends to be particularly hot or cold make sure to include in your budge accommodating for this.

Hot location.

–       Convert your programs into fans for guests to use during the ceremony

–       Make sure there is shade for your guest

–       Provide cold drinks or a cool place for them to relax

Cold location

–       Especially if you are considering an outdoor wedding, I would recommend investing in an outdoor heater

–       Provide guests with free shawls

–       Have a bon fire or a heated area for guest to take a break from the cold

Most importantly, make sure your quests are aware before hand so they can dress appropriately. This also is true for beach weddings or a location that requires a lot of walking for guests.

6. Provide Friendly Food

I went to a wedding recently that my husband ended up eating a piece of bread and some fruit. He is allergic to nuts and every items at the reception had walnuts drizzled in the food. It’s important to consider big food allergies when planning your wedding such as nuts, shellfish and fish. If these are some of your favorite food not a problem, just make sure to include some allergy free options as well. Same goes for vegetarians and gluten free option.  If you know a large portion of your guests have diet restrictions you should try to accommodate that will at least one option for them.

7. Excessive Break between Wedding and Reception

I have to admit that I had a three-hour gap in between my wedding and reception. Knowing this would be a problem for some of my guests with small children I included in our invitations places near by to visit in between. It happened to be in a metro area, walking distance from the free public zoo. Ideas:

–       If you know that there will be a large gap make sure your guests have something to do in between.  Such as yard games, or local restaurants.

–       Provide them with local brochures for activities in the area.

–       Make sure the reception is available in case they want to arrive early.

8. Don’t offend Grandma with Kanye West

Sure, you might love to dance to “Gold Digger” but that doesn’t mean your grandma does. Keep all guests in mind when selecting music for your reception. Here are some easy tips:

–       Don’t seat elderly guests by the speakers

–       Play music that is easy to dance to

–       Never play music with inappropriate language

–       Stay with slower, safe songs and move to the louder music to later in the evening

–       Play music at a reasonable level. Weddings are a great opportunity to catch up with friends and family so make sure your guests can still enjoy one another’s company.

9. Disorganization to the max.
I once attended a wedding where the cocktail hour became two-and-a-half hours long because the bride and groom wanted more photos in the moonlight. Imagine the look on guests’ faces when we finally sat down to our seats and waited another hour and a half before dinner was served.

– Create a timeline of events and assign someone responsible for keeping you on track

– Don’t be a Bridezilla. Yes it is your day, but there are potentially hundreds of people that are spending their day celebrating with you. So make sure to keep them in mind as well.

10. Don’t forget to do thank you’s

It is so easy to watch the day just pass you by without getting a chance to talk to everyone. So take a break from the dance floor and chat with your guests. Even a quick hug or thank you for coming will be enough to make your guests feel appreciated.

Thank you cards: Even if you had a chance to thank everyone at the wedding for coming, you must send thank you cards. This is something that everyone expects and because some guests make special arrangements to be at your wedding be sure to make the card personalized.  My tip for you is to split the cards up between the two of you and tackle a handful of cards every day. Most people don’t expect a thank you card for a month or two.

Top 10 Wedding Guest Complaints

10 Wedding Day Regrets

wedding day regrets

It’s the most wonderful day of your life. The last thing you want is to look back and have regrets. Here are the 10 most common regrets brides have on their wedding day.

1. Not hiring a videographer

When your standing in front of all your friend and family breathing it all in, it doesn’t matter how “in the moment” you plan to be. You just can’t capture every moment. You can’t see your father wipe away his tears as your husband glances at you lovingly which is why it’s important to have someone there to capture those moments so you can focus on enjoying the day. You may feel it’s just an extra expense now but you will be grateful in 20 years that you can watch those moments together again.

2. Not getting un-watermarked images as part of your photographers contract

I truly cannot believe that this is still a common practice for wedding photographers. What Bride doesn’t want to be able to put her wedding photos on Facebook, or create your own custom digital book without having to worry about watermarks? It’s your day! With all the fun and creative things you can do with digital photos now, so why limit your options?

3. Making guests wait to long to eat

With potentially hundreds of people celebrating with you, it’s important to keep their needs in mind as well as your own on your wedding day. Hungry people usually equals one of two things… crabby people… or drunken people. When your guests arrive at the receptions and there is no food for them to eat. The first thing they will do is head to the bar. This can get pretty expensive for you if you opted to have an open bar and it can also lead to a short night because guests have had too much to drink or are now tired from waiting to eat for too long.

4.  Not having the band play “your song”

Now days its becoming undesirable to have anything cliché at your wedding. But there are key elements of a wedding that your guests, parents and wedding party will expect you to do. Having a first dance with “your song” is one of them. If you want to spice it up pick a nontraditional first dance song or add your own flair to it. My father surprised me during our father/daughter dance by inviting all fathers to dance with their daughters. There wasn’t a dry eye in the house!

5. Not having an open bar

If you cant afford to have a full open bar opt for a specialty cocktail or a partial bar that offers only wine and beer.

Here is David Tutera’s professional opinion

 

6. Not booking a great hotel for our wedding night

After your wedding you will be exhausted. It’s the best day of your lives but it’s also the more exhausting. Renting a hotel room close to the reception will be something you won’t regret. Not only can you enjoy the night without worrying about how to get home but there is something refreshing about waking up in a room that is not your own. It’s like a fresh start, which is fitting for your new marriage. If you have kids or pets make sure to make arrangements for someone to take them for the night so you can fully enjoy your first night as husband and wife.

7. Not taking enough family photos

As frustrating as it can be to get everyone in for a family photo it will be worth it. How often do you have this combination of people all in the same place? So take advantage of this moment in time by capturing it with a photo.

8. Not having toned arms for your photos

Wedding dresses are made to be flattering in all body sizes but in most of them your arms and shoulders are completely exposed. You will see the most results for your wedding day if you focusing on toning your arms to get those great wedding day photos.

9. Not taking 10 minutes to soak it all in.

The day goes by in a blur. Its important to get away from the crowd and have a “moment” with one another where you really let the gravity of the day sink in. It’s a moment that however brief you will remember for a lifetime.

10. Not changing shoes

I’ll say it again. It’s a loooong day! Your feet will get tired. If you want to spend the night dancing like most brides do its important to pack a separate pair of shoes. If you went for a more conservative approach for the wedding here is your chance to add some color or flair. Just make sure your alternate shoes are comfortable or have a reasonable heel to last the whole night.

For more read here.

 

What Venue is Right for You?

After you decide on a budget, your next step is picking your wedding venue. With so many choices and options its important to consider what venue is right for you and your wedding vision. Here is a quiz to help you decide.
Venue Selection Flowchart

Wedding Party Responsibilities 101

Weddings can be really stressful at times, that’s why you have your favorite ladies… and gentlemen by your side. Here is an easy breakdown of the duties of your wedding party to help ease the load.
Print

Simplybridal.com

Cutting Down the Guest List

This is one of the hardest things to do and can be one of the most heated topics during your wedding planning. Here is an infographic to help you cut down your guest list.

Who-will-make-the-wedding-list.jpeg

Ultimate Floral Guide

Have a color scheme picked out but no clue on what flowers are available in your colors? Take a look at the floral guide to pick flowers that coordinate with your color scheme.

Your florist will be able to help pin point what flowers are in season and within your price range but coming with suggestions can help her make your dream bouquet a reality.

Wedding Dress Style Guide

Picking out your wedding dress is an unforgettable experience. For most women it’s one of the best shopping experiences you will ever have but it can quickly become a frustrating experience if you aren’t trying on the correct style for your body type. The Wedding Dress Style Guide should give you a head start on finding the perfect dress for your big day.


Download the PDF version of the Wedding Dress Style Guide.

Honeymoon Registry?

There are tons of reasons to consider a honeymoon registry especially if you are already established in your home and  don’t have a long registry list. You can always accept cash as a gift most people like to give a more personal gift, creating a honeymoon registry allows people to give you cash but with the peace of mind that its going towards something fun.

If you do decide to do a honeymoon registry there is still  etiquette to conciser.  Follow these rules for your honeymoon registry and you will be all set.

1. Don’t advertise your registry on your invitations. It is never a good idea to include registry information in your invitations. Most people now days include them in shower invitations or send information word of mouth.

2. Create a wedding website. A wedding website is the best way to get all your wedding information easily accessible to all your guests. In here you can include information about your wedding, directions and also registry information.

3.  Let your guests know why. Its not uncommon for brides and grooms to create cash registries. As the average age of a bride’s age increases you find that they need less and less. Most brides have already been out on their own. Let your guests know that you just don’t have a need for a new set of knives so instead offer them an opportunity to pay for a fun trip or excursion.

4. Have a range of prices. Just like a regular registry you want to include a range of prices in your honeymoon registry. Some people can only afford a $25 gift or you have others who will want to pay for a $200 excursion. Give them options, trust me they will appreciate it. 

5. Thanks yous. DON’T FORGET to write thank you card.  Cash should be appreciated and recognized just like any other gift so don’t forget to recognize those gifts just like you would a new set of pots.

You can find tons of honeymoon registries online but here are my favorite.

Most popular honeymoon location spots have registry options for instance Carnival and Sandals offer registry options where you can pay for excursions or spa packages.

Not All Registries Are Created Equal

That’s right not all registries are created equal. Many registries now offer incentives to register with them. Take a look at the registries below that provide benefits to not only you but also your guest.

1. Bed, Bath & Beyond

  • Free gifts for registering for select brands
  • 10% off everything left on your registry
  • Guests can use 20% off coupons to purchase your gift

2. Kohls

  • Free announcement cards that include a 15% off discount
  • 15% off everything left on your registry

3. Macy’s

  • Bonus gifts for registering for certain brands
  • Automatically added to the Macy’s reward program that gives you point (cash) for every gift that is purchased on your registry.

4. GiftRegistry360

  • Combine all your registry items into one simple list
  • Register for items at stores that don’t have registries

5.  eRegistry.com

  • Guest purchase WishCards which can be used as cash
  • 30% off purchases in their online mall

6.  Give Artfully

  • Register for all hand made unique artwork
  • 5% of proceeds are donated to the non-profit of your choice

7. The Man Registry

  • Let your guy be part of the registry experience
  • Provides Groom 101 articles and vendor lists

8. JC Penny

  • Free Engagement Portraits
  • Free Shipping for your guests
  • 10% off everything left on your registry

9.  William – Sonoma

  • In-store guidance
  • 10% off completion discount

10. Wishpot.com

  • Get notified when an item goes on sale
  • Allows your guests to contribute to a large gift together

Hopefully these gave your some ideas for making the most out of your registry, now go have fun!

Name Change Made Easy

You’re finally married …. or at least the reality is setting in that you will soon be Mrs.fillintheblank. It’s fun to say it but first we have to make it legal. While doing research for my own upcoming wedding I discovered a genius site called I’m a Mrs. The site guides you through a step by step process of changing your name. Making it as simple and stress free as possible, at a charge of course. Their easily affordable packages help take the guess work out of changing your name, and ensure that no stone is left unturned.

Package Options

Standard – $29.95

  • All Government Forms
  • 3 Additional Forms of Your Choice

Premium – $49.95

  • All Government Forms
  • Financial Companies
  • Utility Companies
  • Mortgage Companies
  • Loyalty Programs
  • Fitness Centers
  • Medical
  • Any Other Form Available

You can also purchase gift cards which are perfect gifts to give to friends, family or send a hint hint to receive it yourself as a shower or wedding gift. :)