10 Wedding Day Regrets

wedding day regrets

It’s the most wonderful day of your life. The last thing you want is to look back and have regrets. Here are the 10 most common regrets brides have on their wedding day.

1. Not hiring a videographer

When your standing in front of all your friend and family breathing it all in, it doesn’t matter how “in the moment” you plan to be. You just can’t capture every moment. You can’t see your father wipe away his tears as your husband glances at you lovingly which is why it’s important to have someone there to capture those moments so you can focus on enjoying the day. You may feel it’s just an extra expense now but you will be grateful in 20 years that you can watch those moments together again.

2. Not getting un-watermarked images as part of your photographers contract

I truly cannot believe that this is still a common practice for wedding photographers. What Bride doesn’t want to be able to put her wedding photos on Facebook, or create your own custom digital book without having to worry about watermarks? It’s your day! With all the fun and creative things you can do with digital photos now, so why limit your options?

3. Making guests wait to long to eat

With potentially hundreds of people celebrating with you, it’s important to keep their needs in mind as well as your own on your wedding day. Hungry people usually equals one of two things… crabby people… or drunken people. When your guests arrive at the receptions and there is no food for them to eat. The first thing they will do is head to the bar. This can get pretty expensive for you if you opted to have an open bar and it can also lead to a short night because guests have had too much to drink or are now tired from waiting to eat for too long.

4.  Not having the band play “your song”

Now days its becoming undesirable to have anything cliché at your wedding. But there are key elements of a wedding that your guests, parents and wedding party will expect you to do. Having a first dance with “your song” is one of them. If you want to spice it up pick a nontraditional first dance song or add your own flair to it. My father surprised me during our father/daughter dance by inviting all fathers to dance with their daughters. There wasn’t a dry eye in the house!

5. Not having an open bar

If you cant afford to have a full open bar opt for a specialty cocktail or a partial bar that offers only wine and beer.

Here is David Tutera’s professional opinion

 

6. Not booking a great hotel for our wedding night

After your wedding you will be exhausted. It’s the best day of your lives but it’s also the more exhausting. Renting a hotel room close to the reception will be something you won’t regret. Not only can you enjoy the night without worrying about how to get home but there is something refreshing about waking up in a room that is not your own. It’s like a fresh start, which is fitting for your new marriage. If you have kids or pets make sure to make arrangements for someone to take them for the night so you can fully enjoy your first night as husband and wife.

7. Not taking enough family photos

As frustrating as it can be to get everyone in for a family photo it will be worth it. How often do you have this combination of people all in the same place? So take advantage of this moment in time by capturing it with a photo.

8. Not having toned arms for your photos

Wedding dresses are made to be flattering in all body sizes but in most of them your arms and shoulders are completely exposed. You will see the most results for your wedding day if you focusing on toning your arms to get those great wedding day photos.

9. Not taking 10 minutes to soak it all in.

The day goes by in a blur. Its important to get away from the crowd and have a “moment” with one another where you really let the gravity of the day sink in. It’s a moment that however brief you will remember for a lifetime.

10. Not changing shoes

I’ll say it again. It’s a loooong day! Your feet will get tired. If you want to spend the night dancing like most brides do its important to pack a separate pair of shoes. If you went for a more conservative approach for the wedding here is your chance to add some color or flair. Just make sure your alternate shoes are comfortable or have a reasonable heel to last the whole night.

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What Venue is Right for You?

After you decide on a budget, your next step is picking your wedding venue. With so many choices and options its important to consider what venue is right for you and your wedding vision. Here is a quiz to help you decide.
Venue Selection Flowchart

Wedding Party Responsibilities 101

Weddings can be really stressful at times, that’s why you have your favorite ladies… and gentlemen by your side. Here is an easy breakdown of the duties of your wedding party to help ease the load.
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Cutting Down the Guest List

This is one of the hardest things to do and can be one of the most heated topics during your wedding planning. Here is an infographic to help you cut down your guest list.

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Ultimate Floral Guide

Have a color scheme picked out but no clue on what flowers are available in your colors? Take a look at the floral guide to pick flowers that coordinate with your color scheme.

Your florist will be able to help pin point what flowers are in season and within your price range but coming with suggestions can help her make your dream bouquet a reality.

Wedding Dress Style Guide

Picking out your wedding dress is an unforgettable experience. For most women it’s one of the best shopping experiences you will ever have but it can quickly become a frustrating experience if you aren’t trying on the correct style for your body type. The Wedding Dress Style Guide should give you a head start on finding the perfect dress for your big day.


Download the PDF version of the Wedding Dress Style Guide.

Honeymoon Registry?

There are tons of reasons to consider a honeymoon registry especially if you are already established in your home and  don’t have a long registry list. You can always accept cash as a gift most people like to give a more personal gift, creating a honeymoon registry allows people to give you cash but with the peace of mind that its going towards something fun.

If you do decide to do a honeymoon registry there is still  etiquette to conciser.  Follow these rules for your honeymoon registry and you will be all set.

1. Don’t advertise your registry on your invitations. It is never a good idea to include registry information in your invitations. Most people now days include them in shower invitations or send information word of mouth.

2. Create a wedding website. A wedding website is the best way to get all your wedding information easily accessible to all your guests. In here you can include information about your wedding, directions and also registry information.

3.  Let your guests know why. Its not uncommon for brides and grooms to create cash registries. As the average age of a bride’s age increases you find that they need less and less. Most brides have already been out on their own. Let your guests know that you just don’t have a need for a new set of knives so instead offer them an opportunity to pay for a fun trip or excursion.

4. Have a range of prices. Just like a regular registry you want to include a range of prices in your honeymoon registry. Some people can only afford a $25 gift or you have others who will want to pay for a $200 excursion. Give them options, trust me they will appreciate it. 

5. Thanks yous. DON’T FORGET to write thank you card.  Cash should be appreciated and recognized just like any other gift so don’t forget to recognize those gifts just like you would a new set of pots.

You can find tons of honeymoon registries online but here are my favorite.

Most popular honeymoon location spots have registry options for instance Carnival and Sandals offer registry options where you can pay for excursions or spa packages.

Not All Registries Are Created Equal

That’s right not all registries are created equal. Many registries now offer incentives to register with them. Take a look at the registries below that provide benefits to not only you but also your guest.

1. Bed, Bath & Beyond -

  • Free gifts for registering for select brands
  • 10% off everything left on your registry
  • Guests can use 20% off coupons to purchase your gift

2. Kohls -

  • Free announcement cards that include a 15% off discount
  • 15% off everything left on your registry

3. Macy’s -

  • Bonus gifts for registering for certain brands
  • Automatically added to the Macy’s reward program that gives you point (cash) for every gift that is purchased on your registry.

4. GiftRegistry360 -

  • Combine all your registry items into one simple list
  • Register for items at stores that don’t have registries

5.  eRegistry.com -

  • Guest purchase WishCards which can be used as cash
  • 30% off purchases in their online mall

6.  Give Artfully -

  • Register for all hand made unique artwork
  • 5% of proceeds are donated to the non-profit of your choice

7. The Man Registry-

  • Let your guy be part of the registry experience
  • Provides Groom 101 articles and vendor lists

8. JC Penny-

  • Free Engagement Portraits
  • Free Shipping for your guests
  • 10% off everything left on your registry

9.  William – Sonoma-

  • In-store guidance
  • 10% off completion discount

10. Wishpot.com

  • Get notified when an item goes on sale
  • Allows your guests to contribute to a large gift together

Hopefully these gave your some ideas for making the most out of your registry, now go have fun!

Name Change Made Easy

You’re finally married …. or at least the reality is setting in that you will soon be Mrs.fillintheblank. It’s fun to say it but first we have to make it legal. While doing research for my own upcoming wedding I discovered a genius site called I’m a Mrs. The site guides you through a step by step process of changing your name. Making it as simple and stress free as possible, at a charge of course. Their easily affordable packages help take the guess work out of changing your name, and ensure that no stone is left unturned.

Package Options

Standard – $29.95

  • All Government Forms
  • 3 Additional Forms of Your Choice

Premium – $49.95

  • All Government Forms
  • Financial Companies
  • Utility Companies
  • Mortgage Companies
  • Loyalty Programs
  • Fitness Centers
  • Medical
  • Any Other Form Available

You can also purchase gift cards which are perfect gifts to give to friends, family or send a hint hint to receive it yourself as a shower or wedding gift. :)

Wedding Planning Tools

Now that your engaged it’s time to get planning.  Wedding planning is a multi-billion dollar business so naturally there are hundreds of tools out there right at your fingertips. Luckily for you most of them are free! So how do you choose? Here is a list of my favorite online resources.

  •  The Weddingbee – A blog featuring posts by real brides from across the U.S. It allows for you to get advice, ideas and relate to each bride as they go through the wedding planning process from ceremony locations to wedding song choices.
  • Weddinglovely - By signing up with weddinglovely you get e-mails regularly telling you what needs to be done, when to do it and how to get it done.  Click to see an example e-mail.
  • Theknot – The knot is a top notch site to get all of your wedding questions answered. Their online planning tools help you calculate your budget,create your wedding website to let guests know where to stay, how to get to your wedding and registry information, and much much more.  You can also download the Ultimate Wedding Planner app from Theknot.
  • Oncewed – The blog Oncewed provides you will inspiration from real weddings. See what trends are popular and get ideas for your own wedding by seeing what brides around the country are doing.
  • WeddingWire - Has over 200,000 approved vendors, help track your budget, find the wedding song for you and track your guest list.
  • Newlyweds! - Create your own wedding website and keep track of your RSVP’s online.
  • GiftRegistry360 – Combine all your registries for your guests into one quick list. Registry360 will automatically detect your online registries and combine them into one condensed list. They also allow you to add to your list anything you want! Want to registry for a hunting riffle, sure sounds strange but why not? Just add it to your 360Registry.
  • Deposit a Gift- Your tool for cash registries. As couples are waiting longer to get married they find that they need less and less registry items. So why not use this tool to accept cash gifts to put towards a new house, or a remodel.
  • Honeyfund.com – Similar to Deposit a Gift you can ask people to contribute money to your honeymoon. More and more couples are paying for their own weddings which is leaving the honeymoon in the dust. If you are one of these couples maybe a honeymoon registry is for you.

Didn’t find exactly what you were looking for? There are hundreds of tools out their for brides of any kind. If you want more suggestions here is the top 100 tools, you are bound to find something in here to help.